🌿Let go of people who are not prepared to love you🌿
This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life.And it will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want change. Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence.
I know your instinct is to do everything to earn the appreciation of those around you. But it’s a boost that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health.
When you begin to fight for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this place.
This doesn’t mean you need to change what you are. It means you should let go of the people who aren’t ready to accompany you.
If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to… …you don’t do yourself a favour by continuing to offer your energy and your life.
The truth is…You are not for everyone. And not everyone is for you. That’s what makes it so special when you meet people who reciprocate love.
You will know how precious you are.
The more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone who is unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of this connection to someone else.
There are billions of people on this planet. And many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment. The more you stay involved with people who use you as a pillow, a background option or a therapist for emotional healing, the longer you stay away from the community you want.
Maybe if you stop showing up, you won’t be wanted. And maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Or maybe if you stop texting your phone will stay dark for weeks.
That doesn’t mean you ruined the relationship. It means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave to keep it.
This is not love. It’s attachment.
It’s wanting to give a chance to those who don’t deserve it. You deserve so much.
There are people who should not be in your life.
The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy. Both are limited. When you give your time and energy, it will define your existence.
And when you realise this…
You begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places or situations that don’t suit you and shouldn’t be around you, your energy is stolen.
You will begin to realise that the most important thing you can do for yourself (and for everyone around you) is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.Make your life a safe haven, in which only ′′compatible′′ people are allowed.
You’re not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It’s not your work to exist for people and give your life to them! If you feel bad, if you feel compelled, you will be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return the favours you have granted.
It’s your only obligation to realise that you are the love of your destiny. And accept the love you deserve.
Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much everything begins to change.
Don’t waste time with people who are not worth it. Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and the protection you deserve.
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